Divorce & Co-parenting
Coping with Divorce
Divorce is one of the most common issues facing families in America today and can severely effect both the parents and children involved. A great deal of research states that one of the most significant risk factors for children’s adjustment is parental conflict, meaning the more fighting that exists between parents, the more difficult it may be for children to adjust to the divorce. Even if you and your ex do not share children, it is incredibly important to seek support when coping with divorce and the loss of a significant relationship.
There are a number of changes and adjustments that occur when going through a divorce. From one partner possibly moving out of the home to splitting up belongings and negotiating time with the children, it can often feel very destabilizing as your dreams and hopes for the future begin to shift. While these changes are completely normal and part of the transformation process, it can help you, your partner, as well as the family system to talk about your feelings during this time. By creating a safe space where both people can share their pain and communicate effectively, it can help ease the tension and start to heal the wounds that have been created.
How Can Therapy Help?
While many people think of couples therapy as working on improving the relationship between both partners, in the case of divorce, therapy can help parents put aside their differences and teach them how to work together for the sake of their children. Since coping with divorce can be difficult and emotionally taxing for everyone, therapy can provide a safe place to express your thoughts and feelings and allow you to work out issues that may not be appropriate to discuss in front of your children. Similarly, the therapist can help validate both people’s perspectives and work to help you find a compromise when it comes to making parenting decisions that you both feel comfortable with. Dedicating the time to work amicably with your ex in therapy will allow you both the mental space and energy to devote your full attention to spending time with your kids.
“This is probably the most difficult challenge any parent could face – learning to love the other parent enough to put the children first.” ~ Iyanila Vanzant
Although there may be a reason you and your spouse divorced, Holding Hope can help you express your concerns to one another, listen to each other, and learn how to co-parent for the benefit of your children. If you have questions or think you and your ex could benefit from additional support, please do not hesitate to call for a free 15-minute phone consultation.